tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post7671162077315251227..comments2023-10-10T09:26:30.309+01:00Comments on The Secret Life of an Unknown Housewife: Bullying...what to do??Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01317766743752185380noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-48402655304036835302009-10-16T09:05:29.476+01:002009-10-16T09:05:29.476+01:00How is it going? Any update? Am thinking of you &...How is it going? Any update? Am thinking of you & your son hoping all is alright.<br /><br />Karen xKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12535270119149510245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-92115748516672819912009-10-15T07:03:27.883+01:002009-10-15T07:03:27.883+01:00Wow. I don't know what to tell you. I was bu...Wow. I don't know what to tell you. I was bullied horribly in school - had my hair lit on fire on the bus, was pushed down in gym class, was tripped in the hallway, was kissed by a boy who had been dared to kiss me for money, and numerous other hurtful things that had me begging my mom to homeschool me. Maybe that is why I missed 80 days of school one year. I don't remember a time when my stomach didn't hurt, and when I wasn't afraid that I'd have no one to eat lunch with again.<br /><br />All of that crap made me a damn good teacher who was awesome at making her classroom a safe place for each student, and a no tolerance zone for bullying.<br /><br />Involving the teachers and administrators only works if they are skilled in reaching out to the bully and bullied alike. I was good at that as a teacher. But my teachers growing up were not.<br /><br />Still, I have a belief that bullying should never be tolerated. It can lead to really horrible things, and serious wounds for a child to deal with into adulthood. <br /><br />One video I just watched that is kind of silly but may be helpful is Veggie Tales Minnesota Cuke and the search for Samson's Hairbrush. It's all about bullying, but is a children's animated video.<br /><br />I can't figure out why he is adamant that teachers not get involved. Is it his honor as a boy, his masculinity at stake? Is it honesty? Is it fear of what will happen out of teacher's sight? I just don't know.<br /><br />But I do hope some resolution is found. Please keep us posted.Inklinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02775312085301951675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-16242417469114018272009-10-15T02:44:00.208+01:002009-10-15T02:44:00.208+01:00PS I am having a magical halloween ball this Satur...PS I am having a magical halloween ball this Saturday. I would be honored if you would attend. Please stop by my site to read the formal invitation and sign up via Mr. Linky at the bottom of the post. :)<br /><br />It's going to be fun!<br /><br />http://bluechairdiary.blogspot.com/2009/10/its-magical.htmlAlexandra MacVeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317852980496492650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-27907339121974914812009-10-15T02:43:41.158+01:002009-10-15T02:43:41.158+01:00Sorry to read of this. I wish I could provide som...Sorry to read of this. I wish I could provide some sort of wisdom or advice, but I do not have children at this time. I wish you the best and lift you up in my thoughts.<br /><br />((hugs))Alexandra MacVeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317852980496492650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-91946979219878072262009-10-14T12:35:27.355+01:002009-10-14T12:35:27.355+01:00I'm so sorry to read this. Kids never want to...I'm so sorry to read this. Kids never want to get teachers involved as they think it will make things worse - but it really has to be done, and if they don't act on it - go to the head teacher or school board. Do what you have to to protect your kids! I've had a couple separate incidents where I had to speak up - and rather LOUDLY - to get anything done. AT one point, I told the school that if they didn't take action, I would keep my child at home - because at least I know they would be safe. They couldn't move fast enough & it did get sorted without any come back on my child from the bullies. I'm thinkiing of you & your son and hope it all gets worked out ASAP!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12535270119149510245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-44123686534768059152009-10-12T16:30:31.312+01:002009-10-12T16:30:31.312+01:00No advice from my corner either, unfortunately!
I...No advice from my corner either, unfortunately!<br /><br />I can only say that we're praying that he'll be alright, and that they'll stop, without too much hullabaloo...<br /><br />I had a short bout with a bully once upon a time, and it wasn't until years later that I finally talked to the boy and realized that he wasn't TRYING to bully me...he actually just didn't know that what he was doing was not how you treated people...it made me sad to know he'd spent his growing up with no one to tell him how to be kind an compassionate...<br /><br />Lots of hugs, and wishing I could sit down over a cup of tea and some chocolates just to be there for you!Korkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05632044893399164839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-74558734616988356362009-10-12T13:26:11.291+01:002009-10-12T13:26:11.291+01:00I too don't have the answer but I know the int...I too don't have the answer but I know the internet will have. I read an article online recently (Guardian Online perhaps) where this was the exact question posted. There were quite a lot of replies on the matter from mothers who had experienced the same problem.<br /><br />If I remember they varied from their child having to forcibly stick up for himself to the bully being invited round for dinner or to a party which made them see the child as a 'real person' & they then became friends. (the bullied kid wasn't keen on this but it did succeed)<br /><br />I was bullied for a short while at school & it was only when I stood up for myself & belittled the bully that they left me alone. I was scared as hell but was more angry & decided I would rather go down fighting than be scared every day.<br /><br />I would try Mumsnet & see what advice best fits your child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4646749189327464337.post-56124992810805501902009-10-12T00:11:41.737+01:002009-10-12T00:11:41.737+01:00I have no answers, I guess that is for him to deci...I have no answers, I guess that is for him to decide. I say always hang with the safe kids, stay close to teachers and avoid situations where these bullies are. There is power in numbers.<br /><br />When he can, ignore them and walk away. The more you respond, the more they bother you.<br /><br />Here we have a bully law that states if a child is reported to be a bully, they can be expelled from school.<br /><br />Your son is a strong, smart young man. He will weather this storm and come out the stronger for it.<br /><br />I would talk to him and follow his wishes. Make it plain you cannot help if he does not tell. <br /><br />I wish I had the magic answers.Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04219479223227928561noreply@blogger.com